Divorce and Child Support

My wife and I have been together for 13 years, married for 3, and have two children ages 3&4.  I have had an established career at the same company for 8 years.  We bought a home in 2006 and we are trapped in an adjustable mortgage.  She willingly quit her job in Nov. of 07 and didn't really try to find work.  She continually exercized everyday losing probably 60-70lbs and then joined the army out of nowhere.  We have been having problems for over a year and she admittedly says she cannot stand me and this is a main reason for her recent departure to boot camp.  When confronted with the fact that she is leaving her two young children behind, she says she is trying to better her career.  Now she has left me with our two children which is a blessing for me, but she had her deadbeat mother and father-in-law living with us, which I never liked in the first place.  Now I want a divorce since this was not a family decision and we were allready having problems.  I want full custody as I do not want her to take my children to another state that she will be stationed in.  Do I have a right or a good case to obtain full custody?  Does she have protection because she joined the military?  Does she have a right to spousal support when I divorce her? 

Ouch that sounds like a really tough one.  First question, how much is she in the childrens lives  and  is she now, even after joining the military?  Does she call and have things to do with the  children....another thing unless she gives you full custody, you may have a hard time with that  on the information I have read.  She would have to be concidered unfit.....etc......spousal support here is another issue....I will look up some more information....the next thing is if you want a divorce, you get it, tell your lawyer everything and get everything in the works..but remember she will have a side to her story also, and she is serving in the military.

If my wife had a big role in my children's lives, I would think she wouldn't have joined the military.  It's hard to say.  She rarely took them anywhere, not even to the store.  They were a burden unless I was there also.  Now I have to do it all myself which is fine with me.  She has not been in the military long.  She has written and called.  She did agree with me that the childeren should stay where we made a home for them, but she doesn't want me to take them from her meaning full custody.  I do want my children to have relationships with both parents, but I am afraid that if I don't get full custody she will get it and take them from me.  Is it equally hard for my wife to obtain full custody as well?

If you both are fitparents, it should work fine for a split custody, where both parents can be in the childrens lives, and honestly better for them.....now I will say this and I have said it a billion times before in my blogs,  if you have read any.  I always think its important for any family in a divorce with children,to get some sort of therapy..counceling, sometimes children tend to look at divorce as their fault....and with anything counceling can help ALL FAMILIES, in a divorce,stronger and work better together after the divorce....It helps....I would do that.  There are free counceling services around, make a call.

On another note, if at allpossible, in the divorce papers,have that either can not move from the area with the children. You may also be able to do the custody, where she is stationed for the military that the children are to stay with you....try your best to work with her....and report back to me, let me know how its going!