Leaving the state?

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Last post 08-21-2009 3:49 PM by UserK7889. 0 replies.

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08-21-2009 3:49 PM

UserK7889
Joined on 08-21-2009
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Leaving the state?

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Hi,

My son is dating, and planning to marry, a girl who has a small child. (Under 2) The father of the baby (they were never married), and his entire family, have been very involved. They have provided supplies, provide medical insurance, take her for a couple nights a week and keep records of everything.

Thus far, there have been no legal papers drawn up regarding custody, and she's only just applied for child support. So far, he's provided things he thinks she needs, or if she needs something, she'll ask.

My son is in the process of joining the military,and is finishing up boot camp. We're sure that he will be stationed somewhere outside of California, and we're wondering what the best process would be to make sure that she (them being married) would be able to go, and take the baby with them. They want to marry when he finishes boot.

I worry, that she thinks that if they just marry first, then take care of it later, that the judge will issue her custody and let them leave, giving HIM the option of visitation at his own cost. I'm afraid that the reality of the situtation is actually that the judge, seeing that the father, and his family, are VERY involved in the baby's life, would then not allow her to leave. Which would then have to choose her baby, or her husband.

Would the military back them up? WOULD it be better for them should they do it this way??

I want them to do what's best, and will have the least negative effect on them all.

Thanks!!

Filed under: military, leaving the state, custody

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