Divorce mediation, I know we have discussed it a few times, but my girlfriend that is getting divorce, gave me new light on it. I discussed awhile back ago I did have a friend in the process of thinking of divorce, and she had many questions. There are things with the information I have read on divorce that you just want to do, and of course I also told her counseling was important. Her divorce process began and was one huge fight. Divorce usually never goes well, but its either a process the spouses will work together or not, so she decided to go with a few divorce pointers I had wrote down for her in the process and go with divorce mediation. She said it has helped the divorce process so much its almost scary. So with that being said let me show you and recap on the important nice things on divorce mediation.
1. One of the nice things about a divorce mediator is that they can help be a closer to a situation in the divorce. or even the divorce process itself, what this means is they can help close arguments over things, they listen to both sides, and then work together not one sided but together with the spouses on the best way to solve the situation.
2. As I just said a divorce mediator will always be neutral between both of the couples in the divorce process, they basically step outside the box, listen to what both of the spouses are fighting about in the divorce, and they help the spouses resolve.
3. One other nice thing about a divorce mediator, is if you no longer need them in the divorce, they will not stay, they are only voluntary, as soon as the divorcing spouses feel they have all things resolved and closed through the divorce mediator, then they do not have to keep them on.
4. A divorce mediator sits and listens, also is sometimes able to help and share and point out things that maybe one spouse is feeling so that the other understands.
5. Here is another good side to divorce mediation, when a divorce mediator is used, they help resolve 50-80% of all the fighting in the divorce and help resolve the problems where the spouses will work together and everyone walks away happy. I guess in a way its therapy and counseling for a divorce.
Seeking out divorce mediation, may really help one get through the divorce process a bit easier, but as always if we have a big family involved, especially kids, counseling for them, can be a huge important factor.
We have discussed this just a little bit in divorce, about receiving your husbands pension. So many people tend to over look this in a divorce, but it is only fair in many cases that a spouse receives her husbands pension in a divorce. Many divorce cases have been reopened due to pension that was not received in a divorce, because a spouse had no idea they were entitled to receiving it, OR even knew anything about their husbands pension. This is another reason I stress on finding a good divorce lawyer, I am not sure how many times I will say that through out my life :) as I sit here smiling about it, and I know the people that read my divorce blogs probably are going to laugh at that statement, because it is something I do stress in about every blog the importance of a good divorce lawyer, it is something they will pick up on, is that you can receive a husbands pension in a divorce.
Of course with anything there are terms, to how and when and why you can receive a husbands pension in a divorce, such as duration of the marriage, etc, so if your divorce lawyer does not mention it, please do, to see if you are entitled to your husbands pension. So that being said, and again I think of how nice it is to be able to get information, ask questions, and know a little bit before you seek out your divorce lawyer, at least you have the information to ask. Why I love giving the information.
If your divorce is over and now you have learned you could have received your part of your husbands pension in a divorce, a divorce case can be reopened, of course you need to have all your information together its important, and you will have to file your quality motion papers, they of course will need to be very detailed for the divorce case being reopened. Then you will have to have a legal brief to convince the divorce courts to reopen it. Then you will also submit a new CIS for the courts.
I hope everyone has a good weekend, no matter what you are going through, keep your chin held high, I will be stepping in here and there to see if anyone has questions, or responds to the information I have given.
It really is sad to think about getting a divorce I am sure for most people, even if the thoughts are hitting you about getting a divorce, or if you feel the marriage is just not going to last, you really should prepare your life for the divorce. Yes sometimes we do need to do these things in confidence just for ourselves, and sometimes even marriages can make it even if we do go ahead and plan for divorce. I do like to tell people, that concealing is one of the most important things you can do for your family and yourself in a divorce, and maybe before the divorce is ever in process, just to see where the underlying problem is, sometimes it at least gives you a piece of mind that you did try to save the marriage. Look back and look ahead, think if divorce is really what you want, never let it just be the easy way out of a little problem, but with that, lets get your life ready for a divorce.
1. I think one of the most important steps for getting your life set up for divorce, is opening up your own checking account, honestly, I think a person should have this anyway's, especially if there is family inheritance, or you have a separate income before you ever meant the person you are now thinking of divorcing, but yet your own checking account gives you your own independence anyhow, and we all need a little bit of that. So if you do not have one OPEN one, and get started for your life after the divorce, saving. Do not touch the joint account, even those are important in a marriage 50/50 for marriages, that will have to be split in the divorce. So just start getting your life prepared with your own checking account.
2. Next you need to establish a little bit of credit to have on your own for after the divorce, even if t is a small credit cared of your own, but be smart use it wisely and pay it right back off. It allows you to start getting your life set up for the divorce for being independent.
3. I have already mentioned seeing or getting some counseling, its just important, yes you can even talk to a friend and confide in them that you are thinking about a divorce, but sometimes a therapist can help dig a little deeper and help you figure things out.
4. Now do a inventory of everything you have, know what you have property, tax records, if there is any prenuptial agreements, mortgages, investments, bank account records up to date, you are getting my point here :) collect Everything and have it up to date what you have what you owe, what you own and give it to someone out side of your home to hold on for you. Divorce can get very upsetting, so when it is time, now you have records for your divorce lawyer and court.
5. If you do not have a job, not is the time to get one or look into even finishing your degree, remember if you have not been working through the marriage, you can get an alimony sometimes, to get your self back on your feet work and school wise after the divorce. But go ahead and make that step and get a job, and get prepared!
6. Health insurance, it is important, I know a lot of people in this world that do not have it, but if you can get health insurance its very important you do so, now if your spouse does carry health insurance on you, sometimes you can get an extension to cover you until the divorce is final,and sometimes even longer while you make the transition of getting your own coverage.
Take your time and think about what you want out of life, I try to tell people to not over look the little things in life, sometimes we may look back and realize they were the big things. So reflect on your life. Divorce is a huge move.....
Something we really never discuss, is what is a divorce, what does divorce mean, I am sure for most people you know what divorce is, it is and refers to the LEGAL end of a marriage. Today I just wanted to go over a little bit about a divorce, and how each state does things different in divorce, but give some highlights and also to ask your divorce lawyer about your area. I also hope at any time you know that you can ask any question about your divorce or child support questions. For some of the questions last week, I am waiting for some answers back, but I also sent some information in the forum area, so I hope it helped your questions, but know I have sent some questions out and hope to get more answers.
Divorce is never an easy time, but does help on finding a great divorce lawyer, remember when going in for your first free consultation, you want to first off ask what the fault grounds are for divorce in your area, each state and sometimes even county's have a different way on how they governing divorce. And sometimes even if you have been abused that will have to be a separate trial, due to the grounds for divorce in your area. Most states do have a list of grounds for divorce, and these tend to be the most common going state to state.
1. Adultery is fault for divorce.
2. Insanity or a mental disorder is fault for a divorce.
3. Indignities is fault for divorce.
5. Cruel treatment, and abuse is fault for divorce.
6. Bigamy is fault for divorce.
7. Imprisonment is fault for divorce.
Again sometimes in some states such as cruel treatment will have to have a separate trial for it besides divorce, all depends on how your state looks at and governs divorce, but there is both fault and no fault divorces. Both fault divorces are usually the easiest, because both spouses agree on the divorce. Sometimes those divorce process is the easiest.
Yesterday in the divorce blog I did we talked a bit about getting your property inventory, knowing what you have in the divorce, knowing what can be split up in the divorce, also knowing what you want in the divorce. But there is something to also remember unless there was some sort of prenuptial agreement, more then likely there is going to be a fifty fifty split on everything in the divorce, unless you have kept all your separate property separate. In most divorces it is nice when the spouses can agree on what each one wants in the divorce and what they want to take on even bill wise, that is also something important to think about in the divorce, is what you can afford by yourself, once the divorce is final. So think about what you can take on by yourself if you and your spouse are doing the agreement in the divorce. If not then the divorce courts review everyone's case along with the divorce lawyers to see who gets what and who can afford what. Remember, and also read over the alimony after divorce blog, many spouses forget that they can at least get a temporary alimony during the divorce and for a term after, if you have been without work, long enough to get back on your feet after the divorce.
So lets take a look at what usually gets split in a divorce, and also again make sure to read yesterdays divorce blog, about knowing WHAT YOU HAVE.
* There will usually be bank accounts and sometimes stocks that will need to be split in the divorce. Most the time money will be split fifty fifty, unless the spouses can agree otherwise.
* All of the property in a divorce, house, who wants to take on the house payment, or does it need to be sold in the divorce and the money split, bills, credit cards etc. Make sure you know all your bills.
* Remember your going to have to check and see how your taxes will be done after a divorce, that is important, a lot of people forget this and end up in a huge dilemma later on down the road.
* Check to see if there is alimony in this divorce. Also remember to check for if you can receive husbands pension, especially if this has been a really long marriage, a lot of spouses forget this.
* Make sure to know what you can afford if splitting bills, can not remind you enough on that, especially if you are now paying new rent and bills by yourself after the divorce.
* Divorce lawyers and courts also look at who makes the higher amount of money on how things are split, and if alimony and other things come into play.
There is a lot to go over property wise in your divorce, and really sit down and know what you can and can not afford.
Since we ended the week with Arizona and property division in a divorce, I thought I would begin the week off with your property in the divorce. I suppose this is to understand a few things about your property in a divorce the types of property division in a divorce, and how important keeping your paper work in a divorce. Now we have talked about things that a spouse can not take in a divorce such as your property, referred to as separate property, but what if this property is to get commingled, but yet this is something you have worked hard for or given by your family, for your spouse to take half of it in the divorce. So I have discussed how important it is to keep your information, paperwork, if anything is transferred into another account how much from a separate business you had, your getting my point. Make sure you keep all your paper work, and have your information and also TAKE A PROPERTY INVENTORY. Go through everything you both own, and everything you both owe on, you will need it in the divorce, and your divorce lawyer will need it. To make sure you do not get stuck with all the bills in the divorce and a spouse walks away clean, so take a evaluation and know where you stand.
Here is the 2 types of property division in a divorce, I have discussed these in other divorce blogs, but they are,
1. Community property division in a divorce
1. Equitable distribution in a divorce.
Your divorce lawyer will know which fits into your state.
Ok lets take another look at something when I am telling you to gather property inventory for your divorce lawyer. Your are going to have to open up and look deep and your divorce lawyer is also going to want to know if you have any f these such as
* IRA's that will be split in the divorce.
* Is there any pensions or retirements that a certain amount can be taken in a divorce, by a spouse, especially if the marriage is long, remember we have don't blogs about this, you can get a pension.
* Is there any stocks and bonds that will need to be split in the divorce.
* Is there any deposit certificates to be split in the divorce.
*Is there any money market accounts that can be split in the divorce.
* Is there any items in a safety deposit box that need to be split during a divorce.
Now that is a small list but when I say take a property inventory so does your divorce lawyer, know everything so you are not taken, and keep and know all your information on your separate property in a divorce, sadly if its commingled with no record, there is not much a divorce lawyer can do, but if you have records, you may be able to fix some of it. Go through know what you have, its important!
So ending the week on divorce information. I am going to finish out informational divorce blogs with Arizona debt division. I hope it helps with a few divorce questions I have had lately in the Arizona area. I am happy I can find information to help people out in their divorce. It is just never an easy time.
So Arizona is referred to as a community property state, we have discussed that before in divorce, and the property division is handled by the divorce courts in most cases, unless the spouses can work together on who gets what in a divorce. If the spouses can not come to some sort of terms or conditions then the divorce courts will take over and split the property and debt up as equally as they can, but they do take a look at certain factors when deciding who gets what in the divorce. Things such as jobs, income, child custody, child support, who is paying what. So there are different factors that come in to play on who gets what in a divorce, unless the spouses can agree between each other. Misconduct, and things such as adultery are not factored in on who gets what in the divorce.
Now there are certain things in a divorce that can not or are not considered to be community property, and we have talked about this before in divorce blogs about keeping certain things and not to commingle them with marital property, if so they can be taken in the divorce and split right down the middle. Another important thing is to remember to keep all records and information of things that are separate that you have. But lets take an extra look at what can not be split in the divorce unless you have mixed it in with marital property.
1. Assets and things you had before the marriage are considered to be separate property and can not be taken in a divorce, but again remember not to commingle.
2. An income or any income produced by a separate property investment, but its important to also remember to keep a separate account for those, if its mixed in, it can be taken in the divorce, also another good reason to keep all documentation like I said before, at least you can have proof.
3. Property or inheritance, inherited by family can not be taken in a divorce, unless commingled.
Remember and again I will stress to keep certain things separate or at least have documentation of what it is and where its going.
Now getting back into some divorce information for Arizona, i thought I would hit on alimony after a divorce in Arizona today. A lot of states in divorce just do alimony for the wife in the divorce, but in Arizona, alimony after a divorce can be awarded to either spouse. In special cases in some states, alimony after a divorce has been awarded to the husband, but Arizona really takes a look at both sides in the divorce. In Arizona alimony is referred to as a spousal maintenance in a divorce. It is for the care of a spouse after the divorce is final, usually until a spouse can get back on their feet, but can be awarded even longer, depending on all the things the divorce courts take into consideration in the divorce. They look at several things in the divorce, to see if alimony will be awarded after the divorce, and for how long. So lets take a look at what the divorce courts look at when deciding wither alimony will be paid after the divorce. Remember a temporary alimony while the divorce process is going on can be done.
1. If after the divorce, will a spouse lack the sufficient property to take care of oneself?
2. They take a look and see if a spouse can support themselves with all they have bill wise and life wise after a divorce, with what they make in the work force.
3. If after the divorce, a spouse lacks what is called the earning ability in work to support themselves, and also alimony after the divorce can towards education for a spouse to find better employment, for the future.
4. They also take a look at how long the marriage was, and if one of the spouses did not work or continue education to be able to support themselves, then alimony can be paid, even for a long amount of time also depending on the age of the spouse.
5. They take a look at the standard of living before the divorce, and how the spouses lived in their marriage, this also affects alimony being paid in a divorce.
6. The total length of the marriage, and ages of the spouses in the divorce.
Arizona also gives the leeway of the spouses coming to a decision of their own, on how much and for how long alimony after a divorce will be paid, if they can come to a decision where both agree, if not then the divorce courts will pick up and decide.
A divorce and child question made me stop and think about what divorce information I wanted to share today, what divorce points or states I wanted to talk about, being in Arizona divorce with questions of divorce in that area, had me recapping on divorce in that area, and I was going to hit on, Arizona debt division in a divorce this morning. Then I realized there are a few divorce and child areas, we have really NEVER discussed. So the question this morning which I answered to the best of my ability, through the divorce and child information that I have researched, made me want to take a moment to write this blog, on this divorce and child information. You hear it all the time, spouses moving in a divorce, to relocate to other areas. Now when spouses move in a divorce, the cost of the children visiting need to be set up in the divorce papers that the spouses need to split that cost. Here is another area of having a great divorce lawyer comes in to play, I have said it a thousand times, they will know to get the cost split between the spouses in the divorce.
So the question this morning was, the divorce is not finale, and it had already been set in the divorce for the children to return to the same school they were in, which the father is also paying for not included in the child support. Now the mother after the divorce wants to move out of the county. Can this be done? Well it depends a lot on the nature of the move after the divorce, if a spouse is doing it to better themselves and their children's lives, through getting schooling after the divorce, or moving for a better high paying job, or even to be closer to family, so that family can help out after the divorce with the children, well there is a possibility your going to have a hard time stopping the move after the divorce. But again a good divorce lawyer, can help you in this situation, especially if the nature of the move is just to MOVE and cause problems, between a parent seeing their children. So make sure to get a good divorce lawyer, if you find this happening in your situation, or at any time, unless spouses can come to some sort of terms on visitation and how the visitation will be paid for, depending on how far away it is.
Sorry I was stepped away for an extra day on just giving divorce information and child support info, for most of you that take time to step in and read the divorce information, you know I am always checking in on your divorce and child support questions, and finding the best information I can. I stepped in to look to see if there was any divorce questions yesterday. I found it kind of neat while I sat here to see if I had anyone to help with questions, because it is one of the things I wan to do in life is help others, that I was going to help a friend with her wedding stuff, but I also took time, to give her some well guided information for future, in hopes that she would never get a divorce, the stuff we talked about last week. Just for future importance, is the divorce information I gave her.
Now lets step back in to what this blog is suppose to be about, a recap and update of divorce in Arizona, I have noticed a few of the questions on divorce and child support have been coming from Arizona, so I thought I would recap on Arizona divorce. So lets start, there are 2 types of marriage in Arizona a standard and a covenant marriage, so what's this mean for a divorce, well lets take a look at this, a standard marriage was established before 1998, that is before new laws of marriage and divorce were rewrote, on steps for marriage and steps for divorce, so if you were married before 1998, divorce in Arizona can be a pinch easer, you go with irretrievably broken, now since the marriage and divorce laws have been rewrote its referred to as covenant marriage so now makes divorce a pinch harder, so let me give you the list of what it takes to get a divorce, if you were married after 1998.
1. You must have proof that your spouse committed adultery, then the divorce process may begin.
2. You must have proof in your divorce that your spouse was convicted of a felony. In that now it means your spouse will go to jail or get the death penalty.
3. You must have proof that you were abandoned by your spouse for over one year, and then the divorce process can be started.
4. You must have hard proof of abuse to you or your children for a divorce process to begin.
5. Must have proof of alcohol or drug abuse and that you have tried to help your spouse with no prevail, then the divorce process may begin.
6. A legal separation of 2 years, and the divorce process may begin.
7. When both spouses agree completely in the divorce decision and process.
The laws made it a little harder for divorce then just saying the marriage had been broken. So now in Arizona divorce is referred to as a petition for dissolution of marriage. You must live in Arizona for at least 90 days before you can even file for divorce. The divorce must be filed in the county that both you and your spouse reside in. A divorce can not be granted for at least 60 days after the papers have been delivered to the other spouse. The simple thing is for divorce in Arizona is that if you both agree on everything, the divorce can then be finalized after that 60 day period, if not then a divorce court date will be set.
So lets just recap a bit on divorce. I also want to say it is the weekend and I do step away a bit, but I am still checking in to see if you have any divorce or child support questions. So today I just wanted to recap a little bit on divorce and recap a little bit on some questions this week dealing with divorce and child support. I want to say that divorce is such a hard time in any ones life, wither your just starting the divorce process, or your towards the end of your divorce, the divorce process really never gets any easier. Also if your just having a rough time with your divorce, you know this is a place that you can get things off your chest, and talk about things going on in your divorce and life.
I get the question a lot what is divorce, well it is the LEGAL separation of a wife and a husband that no long want to be in a marriage, of course there our bigger terms for what divorce is, but that is one everyone can understand. So I say it again, the divorce process will never get easier for us mentally. That is why in a lot of my divorce blogs I do suggest that you find some outlet, wither its therapy, someone you can trust to talk to about your divorce and it is also good if you have children in the divorce that they receive some counseling to. Children are not like us, I have seen and researched many divorce cases where the children blame the divorce on themselves, and they also do not understand the fighting between their parents in the divorce, so honestly concealing is one of the best things you can do for your family in time of divorce, it helps everyone.
Finding a good divorce lawyer I just can not push that enough. Knowing what's going on in your divorce, a lot of people go into a divorce like I have said, not knowing what they have, and end up losing a lot in the divorce, so take some inventory, KNOW what you have, and get what is rightfully yours. Check and see if you can get alimony in your divorce. Make sure to wrap up your divorce properly, make sure you read those PAPERS, that will be the last and final most important thing you do.
My heart goes out to all in a divorce now...take care...ask questions...or just scream here!
This is an interesting question that actually came from a friend this morning, who is looking into divorce. I am going to combine a little bit of everything into this divorce blog and also child support blog. The question is yes. The amount of everything being paid after the divorce, depends on several different factors of course income of both spouses being a question. Alimony and child support are for 2 different things. Alimony after a divorce is for helping a spouse get back on their feet after a divorce. I just did a blog on alimony after a divorce discussing the 2 types of alimony. Alimony can be for a temporary amount of time after a divorce to help a spouse that has been out of work or even quit schooling to get back into the swing of everything. Child support is for the care of the children after the divorce.
I did explain that finding a good divorce lawyer in this situation is important. She has been without work for 5 years, because her husband did not want her to work, and they have 2 children. I also told her that it is important that honestly the whole family should get some sort of counseling for the divorce process, this is important for any family going through divorce. Things just went bad in the marriage, of course resulting in her looking into the divorce.
So here is a recap of information of how alimony is chosen in a divorce. These all can mix together to tell how much, and for how long after the divorce alimony will be paid.
* Alimony after a divorce can do a lot with physical and mental health of the spouses.
* Alimony after a divorce can depend a lot on how the debts are split in the divorce.
* Alimony after divorce depends a lot on the spouses earnings, this has a huge factor in how much alimony will be paid.
* Alimony after a divorce depends a lot on the age of the spouses.
Now child support and the amount in the divorce, depends on the number of children and also both of the spouses earnings. I have done an amount child support blog that I may recap on for tomorrow.
I know I have been over these divorce programs before, but they can get lost in the shuffle of divorce information. These can also be used if you are looking to even reopen a divorce case, although we have been over what a tough situation that can be to start with, you are going to need some hard evidence to get that one to begin with, but some programs can help. Divorce can be very expensive, and some of us out there just can not afford a divorce now a days, especially with how everything else is going! So here is some basic information on where and how to get a divorce at least a bit cheaper. Now I will say if there is a lot at stake in your divorce, finding a really good divorce lawyer is still very important, and sometimes even divorce lawyers, will let you set up some sort of a payment plan, not always but there is some out there, so look and ask that if you have a lot to stake in your divorce, debt, property, child support and child custody issues. But if still having problems let me go over a few divorce programs.
1. There is federal funded programs for divorce...These divorce cases are usually done with staff attorneys, this helps them get their experience in for being a good divorce lawyer, and you may find out they already are ;) Everyone has to start somewhere.
2. There is pro bono programs for divorce...These are local divorce lawyers, with the local bar association, these local divorce lawyers, have put in to help with pro bon programs, but now to qualify for these, you must be abused, sick or over the age of 65 etc..
3. Self help clinics for divorce, that are also provided by the local bar association, you can call for these, and get legal information and help and also put in the right direction on where to find a divorce lawyer.
4. A courthouse facilitator for a divorce, they can help process your legal claims, some courthouses are offering this, but not all, you need to call your local courthouse and ask if one can help with your divorce.
5. There are low cost legal programs for your divorce...These are offered to people for divorce that either do not have a high income, but yet can not use the pro bono, due to the grounds it takes to use the pro bono for divorce.
6. There is public defender organizations for divorce...in most all states they offer these for divorce, at a very low cost, but you must be at a certain income level.
Remember you can call your local courthouse, and the bar association for this information also to see who is offering this help for divorce.
We have been talking lately about the importance of wrapping up your divorce. We have also talked about how it is so important to research your divorce lawyers, to really find the right divorce lawyer for you. Why it is important to read your divorce papers, and even have a friend or someone you trust to read your divorce papers, especially before you sign anything! Think about the money you have spent on your divorce lawyer, another reason you want your divorce lawyer to be good is well, you are paying your divorce lawyer to get you what you deserve in your divorce, but also you need to take time to know what is going on in your divorce, to read your divorce papers and understand everything that is in them. Lets take a look at what happens, if you really do not wrap up your divorce properly, or your not happy with your divorce. Its not just as easy as looking for another divorce lawyer and reopening a divorce case, it takes a lot to reopen a divorce, hard proof of something wrong in the divorce, not that well I did not take time to really read my divorce papers. So here is all you will have to go through.
1. If you reopen your divorce case, first off you have to appeal to get it reopened, then you have to pay or another divorce lawyer and in most cases, you will have to pay for the divorce lawyer representing your now ex in court.
2 Not only will you be paying for your divorce lawyer, your ex divorce lawyer, you will also have to pay extra for your divorce lawyer to now brief your ex's divorce lawyer on the issues.
3. You will also have to pay several hundred for a trial transcript.
Now taking time to wrap up your divorce properly is IMPORTANT, you do not want to spend extra, just because you did not read over all your divorce papers, or ask questions. Another important thing is that if you reopen your divorce, it really is important to research divorce lawyers out of the area now, so that no conflict comes back into play. So take time to wrap up that divorce properly and READ your divorce papers!
I suppose this is one of the reasons, I stress a good divorce lawyer, and that divorce mediation can be a huge help during a divorce, or also seeing a therapist or talking to someone during a your divorce. Life during a divorce can be high stressed, tempers can rise during a divorce. You may do things you think may get your spouse back, during the divorce, especially if you were not wanting the divorce in the first place, or if you feel sorry for some one. During a divorce no matter how hard things get, you need to be thinking of your future. So again I will stress 3 things for your divorce, good divorce lawyer, at least think about divorce mediation, and talk to someone, wither it is therapy or a good friend, to get things off your chest. So here is a few other things you do not want to make mistakes with during your divorce.
* KNOW what you have property wise, most people go into a divorce not knowing what they owe, what they own, and things get divided, and it is not always equally if you do not know what is going on, so if your getting a divorce, find out what you have!
* AS I stressed in the first paragraph find someone to talk to during your divorce, and also find someone you can trust to read your divorce papers also, its important to read over EVERYTHING in the divorce papers, front to back, and having someone else read over your divorce papers you trust, they may see things you missed due to stress.
* Lots of people don't pay attention to their taxes during or after a divorce, make sure that you do!
* DO NOT BE GENEROUS, to your spouse in the divorce, for feelings of getting them back, or feeling sorry for them. Think about your life after the divorce, you need to take care of you!
* Yes a great divorce lawyer is important, but also make sure you know what is going on also, do not give up total control to your divorce lawyer, you need to know what is going on!
* Yes its important for your divorce lawyer to gather information, but if it is things you can be doing to know what is going on in the divorce, try to gather as much information yourself if you can; one it helps you know where things are going in the divorce.
A person needs to really sit and think during the a divorce about what they want, and try to stay in control of the situation. Yes divorce is hard, but you have a future to think about. Always keep your chin up, when one door closes a window will open.
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