Divorce Mediation...Divorce Mediators.
Yes we have talked about this several times, but I love to give this reminder to people getting a divorce, especially if there seems to be a lot of fighting going on in the divorce itself. I think divorce mediation and mediators are becoming more and more used now in a lot of divorce cases. They really do help so much. Now let me clear something, they are not at all any kind of a therapist, so if you do need help which I do suggest that all families in a divorce seek some counseling *therapy* especially with children, it can help a lot of you answer questions and help people move on, and children not feel that a divorce is their fault, you will see in a lot of studies that children blame divorce on themselves. But now back to divorce mediators. Mediators help so much on not being one sided but looking at the over all picture and help spouses in the divorce work out what they are fighting over. Well lets just take an over all look at this.
1. A divorce mediator stays neutral to both spouses in the divorce, they do not take sides, but they will look at the over all problem and give the best possible solution for the spouses.
2. A divorce mediator will also and can be a closer for the divorce. Help close arguments, help close and fix the problem that the spouses may have and them over on to the next, instead of circling around in a fight.
3. Here is another nice thing, when you bring a divorce mediator in to help the spouses in a divorce, they only stay for as long as you need them. If you are needing them for one situation or the whole divorce, you use them for as long as you want. They do not stay for the entire divorce process unless you want them.
4. Studies show that spouses that have used divorce mediation that 50-80% of the time the divorce did not drag out and problems were solved quicker and the divorce went a lot smoother.
I think divorce mediation can be incredible, especially for people that will not agree on anything in their divorce, the mediators give the spouses basically the big picture!
I do also think that separate counseling for families is important.