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September 2008 - Posts

Information on Illinois Divorce.

Illinois Divorce.

In Illinois you must either be a resident of the state or stationed in the armed forces to file for divorce.  Illinois does not have a time limit on how long you must live in the county or the state before being able to  file for divorce.  But you must show residency.  You must show that you are a resident of the state and county..or stationed in the armed forces for divorce.  Divorce in Illinois is referred to as a dissolution.   Spouses if both in agreement over the divorce and want things done quickly can file divorce as irreconcilable differences.  Also if you have been separated for at least 2 years.  You can do a stipulation in the divorce saying the marriage was ended after 6 months of the separation.  Now if the spouses are not in agreement over the divorce, and fighting the divorce process, then a spouse must prove one of these grounds for divorce.

1.  That there was impotence in the marriage, then the divorce process can begin.

2.  That there was adultery in the marriage, then the divorce process can begin.

3.  A spouse tried to kill another spouse,  by poison or sadistic ways, then the divorce process can begin.

4.  A spouse was convicted of a felony, then the divorce process can begin.

5.  If a spouse infected the other with a disease during the marriage, then the divorce process can begin.

6.  A spouse with a drug or alcohol addiction, the divorce process can begin.

I like to tell people if something is not true, do not say it just to get out of a marriage. The divorce process is filed with the Circuit Court in Illinois.  The divorce process begins when one spouse files for divorce and the other spouse is then served, and will be given a reasonable amount of time to respond.  Just like other states if everyone is in agreement over the divorce and everything in it.  The divorce can be finalized out of court.  If not a divorce trial date will be set, to let the divorce court decide on the decisions.

Information on Maryland Divorce.

Maryland Divorce.

Maryland divorce is what I would call very deep.  They do allow what is called a limited divorce which we will get into in a moment.  Here is the basics on Maryland divorce.  You must live in Maryland for a year before you can file for divorce.  That is only if the grounds for divorce happen outside of the state.  If the grounds happen in Maryland then you just have to be a resident of the county.  If that makes since.  There is no time limit if it happens inside of Maryland.  But again you must have proof of these things. But you must show that you have lived and have set up residency in Maryland.  Ok now just like most states the divorce process begins when one spouse files for divorce and the other spouse is served.  But in Maryland there are 2 what would you say...2 types of divorce. One divorce allows for couples to separate.  What this is is a legal separation and during this time spouses can receive help for problems in the marriage.  It is referred to as Limited Divorce.  Lets look at some of this.

1.  If there was abuse in the marriage or vicious conduct.  Limited divorce allows for a separation to see if the spouses can receive help.  And to see if the marriage could ever work again along with getting everyone counseling, Limited divorce does not allow you to be remarried,or separate property, this is totally a separation process, to see if you want a absolute divorce.

2.  Limited divorce also works if you have been abandoned and what this will do is set up for you to get a absolute divorce, which we will talk about in just a moment. 

3.  Limited divorce also helps spouses by legally separating just to see how they will feel living apart and if they can work things out during the separation process and get some marriage counseling.

So Limited divorce is really a phase to help marriages.

NOW ABSOLUTE divorce is the permanent divorce.  Were when you file the other spouse is then served and you will be divorce.  Here are the grounds for divorce in Maryland.

1.  Adultery, if committed is grounds for absolute divorce.

2.  If either spouse has been abandoned for a lengthy period showing that there was no contact or living together during this time, is grounds for absolute divorce.

3.  If either spouse has  been convicted of a felony, this is grounds for absolute divorce.

4.  Irreconcilable differences is grounds for divorce.

5.  If there has been a 2 year limited divorce separation and the spouses realize it just will not work between them, then the absolute divorce process can begin.

6.  Insanity for 2 years is grounds for divorce.

Just like most states if everyone is in agreement for the absolute divorce the divorce can be finalized out of court.  If not a divorce trial date will be set.

Information on Florida Divorce.

Florida Divorce.

In Florida to file for divorce you must be a resident of the state for at least 6 months to file.  There is not a time limit of residency from county to county, just the state.  Now if you are stationed in the armed forces in Florida you can file for divorce at any time, there is no time limit for armed forces.  Florida divorce is made simple in the face they are a no fault based divorce system.  So basically no fighting over who did what in the divorce.  You can only state there there is irreconcilable differences in the divorce papers.  That the marriage is broken and beyond fixing.  The divorce process in Florida is referred to as a dissolution of marriage.

Now if everyone is agreement about the divorce, and everything the divorce papers contain within them....debt division, property division, child support, child custody...along with any other information and sayings....and again I stress with any state and any divorce.  Read your divorce papers.  In all the information and case studies I have read over.  It is very important.  Now if there is no disagreement about the divorce.  It can be finalized with no trial.  If there is any kind of disagreement and or fighting over the divorce itself.  The divorce courts can order mandatory marriage counseling, which I think is very important anyhow! Once the counseling has  helped the spouses and wit the the divorce the divorce trial will continue at a different date.

Now just like most states the divorce process in Florida will begin when one spouse files for divorce and the other spouse is then served with the divorce papers and given a reasonable amount of time to respond.

Information on Wisconsin Divorce.

Wisconsin Divorce.

In Wisconsin you must live in the state for at least 6 months before filing for divorce, but Wisconsin is also one of those states that its mandatory to live in the county for a certain amount of time also, which  is 3 months.  So here it is a little harder to set up residence and then file for a divorce, you will have to wait 3 months unless your spouse residing in the area you were files.  There is only one reason for divorce in Wisconsin and that is irretrievable breakdown of the marriage that results in divorce.  Which means the marriage is broken.  Now you can show in the divorce that certain things caused the breakdown of the marriage to result in divorce, but again these are a bit tricky, the do not allow such things as adultery to be a breakdown.  So lets take a look at how this works in the divorce.

1.  It can show in the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage that both spouses filed for a petition for the divorce and that both of the spouses are wanting the divorce.

2.  The breakdown of the marriage can show that spouses have been living apart for at least 12 months..meaning they are not in the same household and have moved on with other areas of their life, this can show the want for divorce.

3.  It can also show that both spouses are fighting over the divorce.  Which means one wants the divorce the other one does not.  Here the divorce courts can show that the marriage is broken with no possible chance.  Now it is suggested in a case like this where one of the spouses wants the divorce and the other one does not.  That you do seek counseling for your family. As you know there are many important reasons for that.

Wisconsin falls just like a lot of states.  The divorce process will begin when a spouse has filed for divorce.  In some cases both.  Then the other spouse will be served with the divorce papers.  The divorce in some cases will have to go to a trial, especially if one spouse is not in want of the divorce.  So that the divorce courts can show the marriage is broken.  Also the divorce may go to trial if everyone is not in agreement over other issues in the divorce papers.  As you know just as in most states, if everyone is in agreement the divorce can be finalized out of court.

Information on Tennessee Divorce.

Here is a recap of information on Tennessee divorce.  Looking over updated information on Tennessee divorce, pretty much everything has stayed the same.  To file for divorce you must live in the state for at least 6 months, and the spouse filing for the divorce, must reside in the county they are filing in, but there is not a time on how long, but you must show residency in the county.  The divorce process is called a complaint for divorce. There is no fault and fault based divorces in Tennessee, so lets tale a look at the no fault codes for divorce.

1.  Irreconcilable differences, now you both must be in agreement that the marriage is broken and both of you agree that the marriage is over resulting in divorce, without any disagreements.

2.  OR that the 2 of you have been living apart for 2 years, again no fault between the 2, but that the marriage has been broken.

Now in a no fault based divorce without having to go to court, you must be in agreement over all, the divorce itself of course, debt division, property division, child support, child custody.  Now there is still  a 90 day waiting period for the divorce to be final.  You will also have to wait that 90 days if you are in any disagreement for a court date.

Now here is a list of fault based divorces, that must be proved in the divorce court itself.  So its important to remember, if your just wanting out of the marriage get out, do not point fingers in the divorce, that your spouse was bad.  If there are faults gather your proof for divorce court.  It is very important.  Now here is a list of fault based divorce grounds.

1.  Adultery is grounds for divorce.

2.  If a spouse has been deserted or abandoned for a 2 year period...a divorce process can take place.

3.  Abuse or cruel treatment are grounds for divorce.

4.  If either spouse was convicted of a felony and sentenced  to jail is grounds for divorce.

5.  Alcohol or drug addictions that you have tried to get them help for or work with them through without no prevail, is grounds for divorce.

Again remember,it is always good to seek counseling during your divorce, I do stress that a lot.  If you have any *QUESTION* please feel free to ask in the blogs.

Information on Delaware Divorce.

Delaware Divorce Information.

Delaware divorce for the most part can be pretty simple.  In Delaware to get a divorce you must be a resident of the state for at least 6 months.  That also goes for if you are stationed in the armed forces.  Every state is really different on how the handle the armed forces.  Most states will allow a divorce wither you have been there 2 days or 2 years but a couple states we have talked about lately state that you must live there a certain amount of time and that also goes for Delaware.  The grounds for divorce in Delaware are irreconcilable differences, stating that the marriage is irretrievably broken.  Now if there is any disagreement about the divorce, or arguments at who was at fault or the divorce then one of the following must be proved.

1.  That the separation in the marriage that resulted in the divorce was voluntary. 

2.  Spousal misconduct that resulted in the divorce, so what does that mean...adultery, abuse, alcohol or drug abuse...etc.

3.  Mental illness in a spouse that caused a separation in the marriage, resulting in the divorce.

4.  Incomparability in the marriage that results in divorce.

Now with this all these must go to trial to prove in the divorce.  So if there are disagreements then you will have a trial date set for the divorce.  Now Delaware refers to divorce as a dissolution of marriage. The divorce process will begin when one spouse files for divorce and the other spouse is then served and given a reasonable amount of time to respond to the divorce papers.  Now if everyone is in agreement of the divorce, and everything in it, then the divorce can be finalized out of court.

Information on Vermont Divorce.

Vermont Divorce.

Divorce in Vermont is in some ways a little harder, or should I say, not as easy and simple to get a divorce.  The time line for the divorce takes longer.  The divorce courts also suggest that you seek counseling during your waiting period on the divorce, it is not mandatory like some states, but looked as big importance for your divorce.  I believe that counseling is very important for the divorce process, especially if there are children involved and I have said that a thousand times before about the importance of counseling.  It helps families move on from the divorce and the children to realize that it is not their faults.  If you look back at a lot of studies on divorce you will see that children tend to blame themselves for the divorce.  So I feel honesty counseling should be mandatory.  Moving on in the divorce process in Vermont.  You must live in Vermont for at least 6 months before you can file for divorce.  Now here is the tricky part. you must wait a year before the divorce will ever be finale.  This is when they suggest you get counseling for your family.

Now here is a look at the divorce grounds in Vermont.

1.  Adultery is grounds for divorce.

2.  If a spouse has been sentenced to jail for life or up to3 years is grounds for divorce.

3.  Cruelty or extreme abuse is grounds for divorce.

4.  If you have been deserted for up to 7 years, with no contact, is grounds for divorce.

5. Insanity or none curable mental health issues, is grounds for divorce.

6.  Irreconcilable differences, is grounds for divorce.

7.  Not providing or your spouse when you have the ability, is grounds for divorce.

The divorce process is referred to as a complaint with the family court.  With the year wait for a divorce to be final in Vermont.  The divorce process runs a bit different, but the divorce process does begin when one spouse files for divorce and the other spouse is then served.

Information on Kentucky Divorce.

Kentucky Divorce Information.

Kentucky divorce can be a little more complex on being able to get the divorce. You have to live in Kentucky for at least 180 days before  being able to file for divorce, that is the simple part, so now we get into the more complex part of divorce in Kentucky. For a divorce to even be granted in Kentucky you must have lived apart from your spouse for 60 days...yes 60 days.  In Kentucky there is what is called the no fault based divorce. Any spouse can go file for divorce saying that the marriage is broken, irreconcilable differences, but the spouses not living together shows that the marriage is broken and beyond repair.  If you have not lived apart 60 days and still saying you want a divorce, they will make you see a counselor, one it is good for the entire family especially if kids are involved in the divorce, and in some divorce cases, even if the spouses have lived apart for 60 days it is suggested that they see a counselor also.  So there is where Kentucky divorce is a little more complex.  The in a lot of cases try to save the marriage, or at least help the spouses and families find answers to questions so they can move on.

Just like most states the divorce process starts in Kentucky when one spouse files for divorce and the other is served.  The spouse that is served with the divorce papers is given a reasonable amount of time to respond, which in most cases is 30 days.  Divorce is filed with the Circuit Court, and referred to as a dissolution of marriage.  Otherwise the divorce process can be simple.  Depending on if the spouses are in agreement wit the divorce and everything in it. There can be no disagreement over debt division, property division, child support, or child custody, if there is and no agreement can come to a close, then a divorce trial date is set and the divorce court will decide on those.

Information New York Divorce

New York Divorce.

Divorce in New York is a pinch different when comes to guidelines.  Here are the ways you can get divorced in New York.

*In New York if you file for divorce you must be married in New York or have lived in New York for at least a year before filing for divorce. *or*

*The grounds for divorce happened in New York, and you or your spouse lived in New York at least a year before filing for divorce. *or*

*You or your spouse have lived in New York at least TWO years before filing for divorce, if you were not married in New York, or the grounds did not happen in New York.

It can get a little confusing, and if you have any questions about the guidelines of New York please ask.  Now for grounds of divorce in New York, here is your list.

1. Extreme abuse or cruelty in the marriage is grounds for divorce, but again you must have strong evidence.

2.  If your spouse has abandoned you for at least a year. This is grounds for divorce, but again you must have evidence and proof that you have been left for at least a year.

3.  If there was adultery in the marriage is grounds for divorce.

4.  There is a legal written agreement for separation by the divorce courts.

New York is a little bit more complex when it comes to divorce and the process, makes it harder for one to get divorced.  Or you must have at least lived in New York for up to 2 years.  Most states we have discussed are just a year at the most.  So just like most states the divorce process begins when one spouse files for divorce and the other is served and given a reasonable amount of time to respond to the divorce papers. The divorce process can go quicker if everyone is in agreement. If not a trial date for the divorce will be set.

Information on Virginia Divorce.

Every state is different in how it handles divorce, today we are going to talk about Virginia divorce.  You must live in the state of Virginia for at least 6 months before you can file for divorce, Virginia is one of the states that does not have a length of time for counties you reside in before filing for divorce, just as long as you have lived in the state for 6 months.  Now we have talked about being stationed in the armed forces, each state that has stations for the armed forces is also different, most states will allow for a divorce with no set time, but in Virginia you must also be stationed here for 6 months also before you can file for divorce.  In Virginia either spouse can state in the divorce papers that there is irreconcilable differences...that the marriage is beyond fixing and both want out...or that you both have lived apart and separate for at least a year,and both want the divorce.  If there is no children involved then a divorce can be granted after 6 months of separation, but with the separation process for divorce,but again both must be in agreement of the divorce.  Now if you have been separated for less then 6 months and no one is in agreement over the divorce...... and you want a divorce in Virginia then you must prove one of the following in the divorce process.

1.  You must prove there was adultery in the marriage, then the divorce process can proceed.

2.  That there was extreme abuse or cruelty, then the divorce process can proceed.

3.  That there was desertion in the marriage and you were left abandoned by your spouse for a year with no contact, then the divorce process can proceed.

4.  If your spouse has been put in jail for a felony for over a year, then the divorce process can proceed.

The process of divorce is about the same as most states in Virginia.  The divorce process will begin when one spouse files for divorce and the other spouse is served and given a reasonable amount of time to respond.  Again if everyone is in agreement of everything in the divorce from debt division, property division, child support, and child custody the the divorce can be settled out of court.  If there is any disagreement that the spouses can not come to terms on then a trial date will be set and the divorce court will settle the issue.

Information on Utah Divorce.

Utah divorce, you must live in Utah for at least 3 months before filing for divorce and also live in the county for 3 months before filing.  So here is one of the states we talk about that you need to file for divorce even before you move especially if its into a different county.  If you do then you must wait for 3 months before filing for divorce, unless your spouse files in the county they reside in.  Now if you are stationed in the armed forces, you can file for divorce after just a couple days of being stationed there.  Just like most states, the divorce process will start when one spouse files for divorce and the other spouse is served.  No matter there is a 90 day waiting period on a divorce being granted in Utah.  Most the time it is suggested during this time period that spouses get counseling especially if there are children involved in the divorce.

Here is a list of no fault grounds for divorce in Utah.

1.  Irreconcilable differences grounds for divorce, which means that the spouses no longer want the marriage and say it is no longer working.

2.  Spouses that have lived apart for at least 3 years, under a legal separation, can proceed with a divorce.

Other grounds for divorce in Utah.

1.  Adultery is grounds for divorce.

2.  Impotency in a marriage is grounds for divorce.

3.  If either spouse has a extreme mental illness, or problems, which is incurable, is grounds for divorce.

4.  Drug or alcohol addiction, along with getting treatment with no prevail is grounds for divorce.

5.  If a spouse has been deserted for at least a year is grounds for divorce, there must be proof that your spouse has deserted you.

6.  If a spouse has been convicted of a felony, is grounds for divorce.

7.  Extreme cruelty or abuse is grounds for divorce.

Again you must have proof of these grounds for divorce, the divorce courts will just not allow bashing of each other in the divorce process, there must be proof of these grounds.

The divorce process in Utah can go very simple just like most states.  If spouses are in agreement with the divorce, then it can settled out of the divorce courts.  If not then a trial date will be set.

Delaware Divorce Information.

Divorce information in Delaware.  In Delaware either of the spouses can reside here and file for divorce, but you must reside in Delaware for at least 6 months before you can file for divorce.  The same goes for even if you are stationed in the armed forces here.  Most states do not have a time limit for armed forces, but Delaware even states to receive a divorce in Delaware you must even be stationed in the armed forces for 6 months.  The divorce papers must be filed in the county that the spouse filing for divorce resides.  Divorce in Delaware is referred to as a dissolution of marriage.  In Delaware the grounds for divorce are kept simple unless either spouse will not agree with the divorce...the grounds are irreconcilable differences, again this stops a bashing of each other in the divorce process.  Simply state in the divorce that the marriage was broke down and beyond repair...now if either spouse will just not agree with the divorce, you must prove one of the following.

1.  There was a separation in the marriage that was voluntary, then you will have to go to trial to prove this in your divorce.

2.  You must prove a spousal misconduct for a divorce.  This means adultery,drug or alcohol problem. etc...

3.  A mental illness that has caused this divorce, and you can no longer handle this.

Most states will not allow any extra if their state refers to the grounds of divorce in irreconcilable differences.  Just like most states the divorce process begins's when one spouse files for divorce and the other spouse is served and given a reasonable amount of time to respond to the divorce papers.  Again the divorce process can go smooth and quick without going to trial if everyone agrees on the divorce and everything in it.  If not a trial date for the divorce will be set.

Information on Washington Divorce.

Ending the week, with Washington divorce laws.  I want to take a moment to tell everyone that is coming to the site a good weekend.  I do check information on and off throughout the weekends.  If you have questions please feel free to ask and if you need information on certain states and divorce please do ask.  I can find the divorce information for you.  I will say one of the best things you will do in your divorce process is find a good lawyer.  In any divorce or even child support information.  Taking the time to research a few lawyers is very important.  One to see which one is most interested in taking your divorce case or even other legal matter at that.  Now let me give you some divorce information if you are living in the Washington area.

When getting a divorce in Washington you both must be a resident of the state to get a divorce, both spouses.  Not just the spouse filing for the divorce.  Now if you are stationed in the armed forces there, you can get a divorce without being a resident, but you must show that you are stationed in the armed forces.  There seems to be no time limit on how long you must live in Washington like most states, before filing for divorce.  The grounds for divorce are very simple in Washington.  *Irreconcilable differences* it is a no fault state when it comes to divorce, which means that basically all you can say in divorce court of divorce papers is that the marriage is broken.  Stops spouses from pointing a finger.  The divorce process is called a Petition for Dissolution of Marriage in Washington.  Just like other states the divorce process begins when one spouse files for divorce and the other spouse is then served with the divorce papers, and given a reasonable amount of time to respond to them.  In Washington that time limit is given between 20 and 60 days.

Now if everyone is in agreement with the divorce, the divorce can be settled and finalized out of court.  If no agreement can be made on certain issues in the divorce.  Then a trial date will be set for the divorce and the divorce court will help make those decisions.

Information on Divorce, Maine.

Today we are going to discuss divorce in Maine.  Just like other states, Maine has its own specific rules for divorce.  You only have to live in Maine for six months before filing for divorce.  As you know some states are longer, and you do not have to live in a county for a certain amount of time, just the state itself before filing for divorce, so again, Maine can be a bit simpler if you are needing to make a move before filing for divorce.  Divorce in Maine is referred to as a complaint.  The divorce process begins like most states when one spouse files for divorce and then the other spouse is served...giving them a reasonable amount of time to respond to the divorce papers.  Now the divorce will at least take 60 days in Maine....60 days after filing you can be divorced, if everyone is in agreement of the divorce.  If there is any disagreement them the divorce will go to trial.  Now lets take a look at the grounds for divorce in Maine.

1.  Irreconcilable differences...we have discussed these divorce grounds many times. Both spouses will agree the marriage is not fixable and results in divorce.

2.  If there has been adultery by either spouse is grounds for divorce.

3.  Impotence in the marriage is grounds for divorce.

4.  If there is cruelty or abuse in the marriage, this is grounds for divorce.

5.  Desertion or abandonment, for at least 3 consecutive years, is grounds for divorce.  But lets now go back to moving before filing for divorce.  Be careful of this, because your spouse could say they were abandoned. 

6.  Extreme addiction to drugs or alcohol, and if it shows you have tried to get help for your spouse with no prevail.  This is grounds for divorce.

7.  Mental  illness, and  at least 7 years in a mental institution, is grounds for divorce.

With any divorce and any state I like to give a reminder at points, that especially if there is children involved.  Counseling is one of the most important things you will do in your divorce process.  Along with picking a great divorce lawyer.

Information on Iowa Divorce.

Divorce in Iowa can be a pretty simple process.  They make the divorce process pretty simple.  Again I have said many times, always research the area you may be moving to, if you are deciding on divorce, each state as you know as a time period you must live there before filing for a divorce. In Iowa the time period is a year.  You must live in the state for at least a year before you can file for divorce.  There is no time limit on county, so you can move to another county, but this is always something else to remember in a divorce from state to state, unless its something huge that is making you move, such as a job etc...a spouse can always have you made to move back if there are children involved, in the best interest.  So before you do anything major in the divorce process, make good and sure its where you want to be.

In Iowa the divorce process is called the dissolution of marriage, now the one tricky part to Iowa is that there is a 90 day waiting period on all divorce, and this is not from the time the divorce papers are filed and served.  This is after the process has begun and instead of finalizing the divorce if everyone is in agreement of everything, you will have to wait 90 days for your divorce.

The grounds for divorce in Iowa are simple they are referred to as irretrievable breakdown of a marriage, basically this is irreconcilable differences. Like most states that have this for the grounds for divorce, this stops a finger pointing contest of who did what in the marriage.  The divorce courts will not listen to any of that in the divorce process.

Basically the divorce process is simple but yet a bit tricky in Iowa.  If you have any more questions on Iowa divorce please feel  free to ask.

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