It is one of those things that is dreaded between 2 parents, but the economy is causing a lot of issues for a lot of families, my brother hitting hard with work and paying child support. Which has brought up a few child support informational blogs and answering questions lately.
Unfortunately, we do not want to have to go through this child support situation, and if you also have another understanding parent this is important, but remember even if you go make sure that child support adjustments are put in writing, you never want to agree on something verbally when it comes to child support then years down the road be paying a back pay or being in court.
My brother had also done this many years ago with his child support when he got cut back at work, and unfortunately his ex hit him for back pay in child support that actually has hurt him bad, even making payments, where she verbally agreed and he thought would work out fine....never do this no matter how well you get along, things happen.
Now he has got cut back extremely at work and is struggling to even put food on his table, and is going through the process of getting his child support lowered, now as long as the spouses work together this can be a non costly issue, going through a lawyer and everything goes smooth and in most cases it can, why take someone to court for child support when you know they are only getting 20 hours of work a week.
So what is the moral to this blog, it is one of the things I like to discuss and its working together, working together as parents instead of fighting and holding grudges is important, life moves on, things change, its best to make the most out of life instead of using it to fight. Plus children do better when parents get a long.
Times are hard right now, and many families are struggling, child support is another thing for many families, but work together, and remember getting things in writing, even if you do get along...my heart goes out to so many.
If you have child support questions please ask, if you need to get something off your chest talk about it!
I actually got asked this question from my brother last night, and it made me think about a lot of people going through child support issues right now. The unfortunate thing here is that him and his ex spouse do not get along, even though he try's extremely hard for it to. He has always paid child support on time and in moments given extra, where she seems to be one of those that does not appreciate, and recently before the downfall of the economy had taken him back to court to get a higher child support, even though he was paying more since he had got extra hours at work. With all this being said maybe she is just upset the children are about 18 and she really has never used the child support on them, which has made him upset.
Now lets get off the beaten path here for just a moment on child support, one of the things I think are important is that parents GET ALONG, its not only important for you but for the children, even if its hard, its just the grown up thing to do, plus holding pain over a divorce or a separation is never good, why I always suggest counseling, kind of funny that my brothers wife left him and still is mean to him, and honestly there is no since in that. You want your children to grow up and be strong people, and getting along with your ex spouse is important.
So now my brother has been cut way back at work and can not afford the child support he is paying, it desperately hurts his life. Of course I told him to go see the lawyer that recently handled the child support case and well he is going to have to get it lowered, I told him under no circumstances make a verbal agreement to pay less, cause in the end she will come back and bite and say he owes this. so this does come back to anything dealing with child support or divorce make sure that everything is done in writing and take it through a lawyer. And people go easy on each other, our world needs more compassion....one of the reasons I will say it again, this site is here, it allows a soft place to fall and ask questions or just vent!