January 2009 - Posts
The answer to that is yes, but again here is the case many things are taken into consideration when the courts are deciding on those issues. A parent can not just go in and basically say they want both child support and alimony with the divorce process, the things that are looked at here are, length of marriage, how long was a spouse out of work, did they quit work or school to be a stay at home mom, how old are both of the spouses and child or children etc...there are many more factors that are looked at in the divorce process for alimony and also the income of the spouse that will be paying both. One parent is never put in a financial burden, so remember things may be a lower amount even if you are receiving both. Also the spouse that is receiving the alimony after the divorce and child support will have to show either returning to the work force or school, to make a better income in the work force. One of my main thoughts is that it is nice when parents can work together, and come up with something that does work for them, the divorce courts will allow parents to come up with an agreement for both child support and alimony in most cases, if it is fair, and both are happy with it.
Divorce is never easy and fighting over things such as child support and alimony can get very stressful, in some cases using a divorce moderator is very important here and also I still think counseling for all of the family is important, children have a different way of processing information and sometimes can think parents fighting and a divorce is due to them....so one of the things I do stress to parents in a divorce is get everyone some counseling or someone to talk to, it will help everyone move on. And even if you do not want to, working together with your spouse on issues in your divorce pertaining to child support and alimony is a lot less stressful then fighting.
Remember also if you have any questions please feel free to ask, that's one of the many reasons we are here!
Child support is for the financial care of a child or children, wither child support has come from an ended marriage, or a mother and father that just could not make a relationship work. Child support is never a punishment to whom is paying it. It is for the care of your child. If you were with the child day in and day out, you would be hopefully doing things to help with the child's care, food, clothing, shelter, schooling, etc...you see my point. So child support is a payment for that.
Child support can be split up into several different ways, wither it is paid weekly, lump sum of monthly or however the court systems work it out and also which way the parents see it working best for them. It does extremely bother me when fathers think they should not have to pay child support and can just toss a little cash this way here and there, and think that is enough. HARD working mothers trying to do it all.
Child support is usually based on what a father and a mother make, then payments are set up. Child support is never meant to put one parent or the other in a bind on living.
Reading the forum area this morning it just breaks my heart, and it is a little something we talked about last week, about how some mothers do not appreciate the child support that fathers are paying and always seem to want more, sometimes it truly is out of bitterness towards a split up or divorce, one of the reasons I think seeking counseling is so important. There are a lot of mothers out there fighting just to make it, especially in our economy today and I think if a mother that does have a good father to her children, needs to be very happy and grateful.
If anyone has any child support questions due to their area or things in general, please feel free to ask and I will research the information the best I can, and remember this is a place you can get things off your chest also...I have said it before, we all need somebody.
Learning something new...
I have to say to me learning something new is not only great but also helps others and knowledgeable. I am all about helping others and trying to find the best information when it comes to divorce and child support. Child support and taxes can be a tricky situation when it comes to divorce and most couples end up in a fuss about who claims who on their taxes in the divorce itself. In a lot of cases its a huge mess to get untangled in court. So why am I writing this blog about child support this morning. Well it is tax time and as you know, one of my main things about getting into finding information about child support and divorce was seeing my family go through things, and wishing I could help....researching information for them got me even more concerned about other people and helping them with child support and divorce issues. I think the world needs more people to lend a hand and even just an ear, when we need to scream.
So when it comes to child support and taxes the divorce courts usually decide who gets to claim the children yearly on their tax returns. It has to do with so many things, custody, how much child support is being paid etc....but for years my brother got to claim his kids on his tax return until another fight with his ex, and wanting more child support and wanting to claim the children on her tax returns. So for the past few years what the courts decided to do was one year my brother claims, the next year his ex claims, which seemed to be working out well for both of them and less fights about child support come about....speaking of which, this is one of the things that saddens me when it comes to child support, is when fathers do care, but mothers are after more. There are so many children out there that need child support and mothers can not even find the fathers, I think people should really think about the bigger picture when it comes to fighting about it. So now the moral to this blog is when my bother went to file taxes, this was his year to claim the children. Just finding out that tax laws have been changed, once a child turns 17, you do not get the child deduction. So that is learning something new for the day. If you have any more questions on this, please feel free to ask, and I will research some more information up for you, or if you have any child support or divorce questions.
Have a great Thursday and if you need to scream...HEY SCREAM!!! We all need somebody and I am here to lend a shoulder at any time!